Earlier today, just before classes started, a friend of mine came in class tossing her back angrily aside with an ugly frown spreading over her face. She's very pretty and frowning didn't match her psyche. Another beloved friend asked why she was so, and she broke into tears. Usually I'm a person who everyone goes to, to give advice, but at this moment I flinched from where I am just watching how things progressed as my other friend calmed her down. I never seen this side of my friend before, she was pounding her hand on the table as she buried her head on it still weeping, my other friend, being close to her like a sister did what a good friend would do and comfort her. At first my friend didn't want to tell us why she was crying, and later when she eventually calmed she told us in between sobs. It is revealed that in her bus, this girl acting like a bee-yotch, was acting all high and mighty, maligning my friend as if my friend can't hear her, when in fact that girl was the one at fault. She was the one who cut in line and bullying underclassmen even back-sassing them. We actually know this girl, and to be honest, we can all agree that she has a bad attitude period, annoying and you know that word, (can't cuss her so...)
As more of my friends came we had joined forces comforting her, and I actually admire her because a typical person who is loosing their patience and in the verge of capably murdering the person kept open and positive attitude.
Our final verdict, joking that we'll all beat her up, not actually what we'd do but basically saying that an enemy of a dear friend is a enemy of ours as well. Her compromise is that she won't let her get under her skin, and instead of seeing her as nuisance in her life, think of her as an obstacle that can be over come, that someday she'll have karma.
So why am I telling you about my social life, you probably could care less right? And by now maybe some of you would have closed this window because it seemed boring, but anyhow if you did kept on reading thank you... but wait there is more, yes I ain't done yet ;)
My real reason is basically what the title says, true friendship. What is true friendship? Friendship is not always about social status where you are picky in choosing your friends. To be honest, I'm the type of person who could be a loner sitting in a corner reading a book, maybe I still am or not, whatever, it doesn't matter. I always had at least one or two friends I can be proud to call friends. For me it's hard to trust people, since sometimes if you don't choose your friends wisely they'd end up hurting you. Over time I had stepped out of my social barrier and made other friends, but still cautious and distant.
We live in a diverse community... world... wherever we are around it, we are different, not only because we come from varieties of parents but cultures/ethnicity as well. No one is perfect and I can see that social status and race is a big problem affecting friendship (credits to my teacher who thought me about history especially during the time we are studying the Civil War) We are all created equal, we are all friends and family when we unite as one.
When I step in a class, sometimes there is a little bit of insecurity in me, especially in one that I don't know anyone and each has their on clique, making me feel like a loner. I care less now, I honestly love some alone time since I hate drama. I experience it every day, I have more important things to do than watch two girls fight over one guy, or two guys trying to flirt with me. Yes I can be rude, it just goes to show that some of us, just don't really care about anything in life except ourselves. And you could probably guess what social group I am in whenever we have a group project *coughs* the left overs that need an extra.
If we could all be friends without thinking about their social status, then I guess we'd live in a better peaceful life. But sometimes it doesn't work that way. Everyone was born judgmental, they would be friends with you if: 1. they need something from you, 2. because they have to, 3. if they are sincere. If you have real friends, I praise you for that.
True friendship is not a social status thing, its something that everyone can accept without a barrier holding you back to spill out your guts called feelings. True friendship is not how beautiful, smart, handsome, outgoing, cool you are, it's how others accept you for who you are. True friendship is a relationship where you are all open to each others ideas, listening to each others feelings, and trusting everyone and learning from each and everyone's mistakes. So do I have true friends? Maybe, I guess, I have at least one or two people I trust and know a lot about and I can relate my feelings to, I have other friends who I can hang out with and be who I am, be with and know that if I'm at a dead end or if I ever felt like falling I know I can count on them to catch me. Friends who if I am in a pinch, or if I'm having hard feelings in anyone of them because the typical drama in friendship is common, I know they would be there. The question is do you?
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